There is a certain mindset that hides behind a facade of 'being good', that causes self destructive behaviours, almost unconsciously. I was doing courses with a group and the arrangement was not working. Their task was to bring me experts to make courses with. They brought a few and then dried up. We discussed ways to attract more experts, but nothing changed. They were also going to bring podcasters to my podcast platform. And really, the reason nothing happened was the revenue generated to each individual was too small. If was not worth the effort. In January, I ended the agreement, stating simply that nothing was happening. I wasn't going to change anything for those course we had made and if in the future they wanted to bring an expert we would discuss it on an individual basis. I received an "Okay, no problem" response. Last night I recorded a new course with one of the experts brought to me by the group. As we started, he mentioned there was something he wanted to tell me before we recorded. Evidently, the group had approached him about dropping me and working with them. Understand that the individuals knew each other very well for decades. Thus my immediate thought was, "Alright, I understand you want to work with your friend..." But I was wrong. My co-instructor told me that he had given his word to work with me and that was that. "I am a man of my word." I replied, that I was honouring the original agreement and the splits were in place for the group to get their share. This was the first thing I did when I set up the course weeks earlier.. This was true. Even though, we were no longer working together as we had been, there was a specific agreement between the three of us and I hadn't changed it. Now the actions of the group did not endear me to them. I was a bit disappointed. I felt they could have talked to me and we could continue to work together with my co-instructor, but perhaps from my message about terminating our agreement, they felt that was not an option. Then my co-instructor mentioned to me a bit more of the conversation. I don't want to get into detail. I want to respect the privacy of our talk. And to be clear, nothing in that conversation was mean or derogatory or had anything to do with me. It was about opportunities the group and my co-instructor could engage in. He had decided not to go forward with the ideas presented. But as he spoke, I could see why. And then I thought of an elegant solution that would have had him working with the group (possibly). Being the selfish, greedy guy that I am, I am keeping my solution to myself. LOL But what I think was, if they had acted in better faith, openness and honesty, they would have ended up with a potential project, doing what they are very good at, that could have been positioned in front of tens of thousands of entrepreneurs around the world. Instead they have nothing.

There is a certain mindset that hides behind a facade of 'being good', that causes self destructive behaviours, almost unconsciously. I was doing courses with a group and the arrangement was not working. Their task was to bring me experts to make courses with. They brought a few and then dried up. We discussed ways to attract more experts, but nothing changed. They were also going to bring podcasters to my podcast platform. And really, the reason nothing happened was the revenue generated to each individual was too small. If was not worth the effort. In January, I ended the agreement, stating simply that nothing was happening. I wasn't going to change anything for those course we had made and if in the future they wanted to bring an expert we would discuss it on an individual basis. I received an "Okay, no problem" response. Last night I recorded a new course with one of the experts brought to me by the group. As we started, he mentioned there was something he wanted to tell me before we recorded. Evidently, the group had approached him about dropping me and working with them. Understand that the individuals knew each other very well for decades. Thus my immediate thought was, "Alright, I understand you want to work with your friend..." But I was wrong. My co-instructor told me that he had given his word to work with me and that was that. "I am a man of my word." I replied, that I was honouring the original agreement and the splits were in place for the group to get their share. This was the first thing I did when I set up the course weeks earlier.. This was true. Even though, we were no longer working together as we had been, there was a specific agreement between the three of us and I hadn't changed it. Now the actions of the group did not endear me to them. I was a bit disappointed. I felt they could have talked to me and we could continue to work together with my co-instructor, but perhaps from my message about terminating our agreement, they felt that was not an option. Then my co-instructor mentioned to me a bit more of the conversation. I don't want to get into detail. I want to respect the privacy of our talk. And to be clear, nothing in that conversation was mean or derogatory or had anything to do with me. It was about opportunities the group and my co-instructor could engage in. He had decided not to go forward with the ideas presented. But as he spoke, I could see why. And then I thought of an elegant solution that would have had him working with the group (possibly). Being the selfish, greedy guy that I am, I am keeping my solution to myself. LOL But what I think was, if they had acted in better faith, openness and honesty, they would have ended up with a potential project, doing what they are very good at, that could have been positioned in front of tens of thousands of entrepreneurs around the world. Instead they have nothing.
by Scott Paton

May 07, 2018 at 09:32PM
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